It's easy to pass up unreasonable, reckless offers. People will barely notice that you've said no and then suggested something better and more sensible. Go your own way and follow your own drummer, particularly in winter when family may make extra demands on your time and energy. Be compassionate and practical. It's for everyone's good. In the spring you could acquire more possessions than you really want, although they may be lovely and tempting at the time. Enjoy them and share. Feel appreciated and noticed. You shine and people see it.