The Rocky Road to Loving Yourself Is So Worth Taking

Venus moves into Libra! The universe is asking you to find balance in order to find that one person you can really commit to. If you’ve been playing the field, don’t be surprised if you catch feelings for the next person you wake up with, and if you’re partnered, that connection will feel even stronger this weekend. For everyone, be mindful of any inner monologue or destructive habits that keep you from choosing the love you deserve, and remember not to settle simply to satisfy your desire for partnership. If you want it, it’s time for the real thing.

The stars bring huge changes in the month ahead. Get the full scoop with your premium October horoscope!

Aries Weekend Love Horoscope
You often assert yourself without thinking about the consequences, and historically, this has bitten you in the ass, burned bridges, and messed up what could be great relationships. But your independence and go-for-it attitude is also one of your best qualities. The trick is learning how to maintain this without hurting those around you, and Venus’ move into Libra is going to teach you how to do this. Slow down, think about how your actions and words will affect those around you, and stop caring so much about being right. Love isn’t about winning. It’s about living in the grey where two people are both right. Find the grey space, and have some fun this weekend with someone you love – or could love. Things are likely to get steamy for you on Sunday.

Love Lesson: Love in the grey.

Passion Prediction:
Taurus Weekend Love Horoscope
You want security, but this can make you dig your heels into the earth and refuse to change your mind about anything ever. With the sun, Mercury, and Venus in Libra, it’s time to ditch the fears that make you see the world in black and white. If you have a specific list of qualities you want in a partner, it’s time to reevaluate. This may cause you to reflect on past partners and question your decision to let them go. Good! Not because they’re necessarily the right person for you, but because your journey toward partnership involves loosening your desire to control the world around you. Your partner is in that world, and they have no desire to be controlled.

Love Lesson: Keep an open mind about who will make the best partner for you.

Passion Prediction:
Gemini Weekend Love Horoscope
Be careful not to compromise yourself for the sake of making peace. Mercury and Venus in Libra have you craving a conflict-free existence. You’ll be feeling especially generous towards people who’ve hurt you in the past – not so much because you think they deserve your forgiveness but because you’re tired of holding onto the pain. Letting go is great. Letting go is beautiful. But sometimes when you let go of one thing, you can accidentally toss out some parts of yourself that you need. So before you reach out to an old lover with the goal of putting the past behind you, let the feelings of forgiveness settle. Mercury moves into Scorpio on Wednesday, this will help make sure you definitely mean what you feel.

Love Lesson: Avoid acting on impulse after a sudden change of heart.

Passion Prediction:
Cancer Weekend Love Horoscope
A Leo moon has you feeling frisky. Slip on something sexy and get thee to a date. Don’t have anyone special in mind? Ask a friend for a set up or take yourself out to meet someone new. Saturday is best for romance, and you want all the romance. I’m talking flowers and candles and kissing in the street, and if Sunday rolls around and you’re feeling annoyed that you didn’t get any of that, then remember that you still have yourself. And that’s pretty freaking lucky. Your nurturing heart looks for other people to pamper, but you deserve some pampering as well, especially from yourself because you do it better than most.

Love Lesson: Buy yourself the flowers.

Passion Prediction:
Leo Weekend Love Horoscope
The moon is in Leo, Venus is in Libra, and romance is in the air. This romantic energy is full of fire and air. If you play your cards right, the air will fuel the fire, allowing passion to grow and grow. This is all about finding the right balance between you and your lover so that you’re both left feeling satisfied. If you lose sight of this and become too focused on your wants or theirs, the fire and air combo will act like a candle being blown out quickly. Things may get hot and heavy, and then something goes awry, and sex and romance is taken off the table. If you want to keep the fire going and enjoy yourself this weekend, make sure you’re fully honoring your romantic connections.

Love Lesson: Respect the nuanced chemistry between partners.

Passion Prediction:
Virgo Weekend Love Horoscope
This weekend is all about pleasure and pain. Mars is on its own in Virgo and being challenged by Uranus, Chiron, and Saturn. This may leave you feeling sexually frustrated. You’ll be craving sex, and you’re okay waiting for it. But at the same time, the waiting is triggering a lot of insecurities. You wonder why you’re having to wait and why you don’t have it already. Just keep reminding yourself that it’ll happen because it will. Maybe even on Sunday as the moon moves into Virgo and turns your sexual desire up another notch.

Love Lesson: No matter how you slice it, sex is a very intimate act.

Passion Prediction:
Libra Weekend Love Horoscope
I told you this was going to be a good month, and with Venus now in your sign along with Mercury and the sun, things are going your way. If that doesn’t ring true, then it’s time to evaluate your choices. Uranus and Chiron are the ones making trouble for you right now. Are you compromising your independence? Are you choosing from fear? Remember that often the compromises we make in love aren’t about giving too much to our partners. Sometimes we aren’t giving enough. You’ve built walls around yourself that are ultimately interfering with your ability to have a partnership. Figure out what shape they’re taking, and break those babies down.

Love Lesson: Love means wholehearted vulnerability.

Passion Prediction:
Scorpio Weekend Love Horoscope
Jupiter is officially in you! That means abundance is headed your way in every area. You are beginning a massive growth spurt through learning new things. Your spiritual self is expanding, and this weekend the moon is anchoring that growth to your karmic journey. Whatever happens now is part of the plan, and you’re ready to release any sexual trauma and all the other fears that keep you from fully stepping into your power. This means you have no time for situationships that aren’t fully honoring your sensual, emotional, loving self. You have the world to give. Make sure you’re giving it to those who are ready to receive it. Once you’re set on that, go have fun! Mars conjuncts the moon on Sunday and things are heating up.

Love Lesson: You’re a rockstar. At least that’s how your partner should see you.

Passion Prediction:
Sagittarius Weekend Love Horoscope
Your ruler Jupiter is now in Scorpio. That means Scorpio’s energy is moving through you. You’re feeling your feelings more than usual. Intensity and lust reign. Combine that with your fiery, flexible nature, and now is the time for exploring new sexual experiences. If you’re partnered, find a way to mix it up in the bedroom. If you’re single, find someone you can explore with. Scorpio is jealous and loyal to a tee, so don’t be surprised if you’re losing the desire to see lots of people. And know that you may feel freaked out about opening yourself up in this new way sexually, so pick a partner you trust.

Love Lesson: If you’re lover’s making you anxious, ditch ‘em.

Passion Prediction:
Capricorn Weekend Love Horoscope
You get an idea in your head, and you work toward it with fierce determination. But the road you walk is rocky. That’s because you’re often so attached to your original idea that it’s hard for you to change direction. It’s this mentality that causes problems for you now. Your ruler Saturn is in the mutable Sagittarius, and Mars is in mutable Virgo. You’re being asked to to be more flexible in how you go about doing things. Your tendency to cling makes you frustrated and angry, but if you can relax into nature’s flow, you’ll experience increased passion and richer, more adventurous sex. Love is all about balance right now. Clinging and balance don’t go together.

Love Lesson: Approach each moment like it has something new to teach you.

Passion Prediction:
Aquarius Weekend Love Horoscope
You feel an ease amidst the hard parts of this major transition. Life’s been challenging you in work and love and at home, but with Saturn and the moon trining your ruler Uranus, you’re ready to surrender to everything that’s happening. You can’t be bothered to be hard on yourself for whatever’s not going your way. There’s a bigger picture here, and you can see it. Trust yourself because your visionary nature can sense where you’re headed. Any love stuff that isn’t ideal just isn’t a concern. It may not feel great, but struggle is a part of life. It’s part of growth, and to accomplish the big things you see in your mind, you just have to keep going.

Love Lesson: Move forward with grit.

Passion Prediction:
Pisces Weekend Love Horoscope
It’s like the shackles are breaking loose, and you can finally stretch your limbs. Don’t get me wrong, you’re still feeling uncomfortable with just about everything right now, but Pluto’s here to remind you that everything you’ve been going through is helping you evolve. So don’t lose sight of that. Otherwise all of the hard stuff could swallow you up, and you’re far too wonderful for that. As long as you remember all you have to give, you can still show it to other people. Your partner or lover will know that you’re still the unconditionally loving, free spirited human they fell for, so don’t worry about being imperfect right now. Just live your life and stay true.

Love Lesson: Don’t forget who you are.

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Virginia is a Brooklyn-based Reiki Master and psychic healer dedicated to expanding people’s understanding of what’s possible. She offers private readings, coaching, healing, and more through her company, Fleeting Connections.

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