What You Can Learn From Your Ex, Based On Their Zodiac Sign

Breakups are never easy. Ending a relationship, whether it was long or short, a passionate affair or a devoted partnership, can be painful on both sides. At times you may wonder why you were even with this person in the first place or wonder what there is to gain from the failure of a relationship?

Understanding Your Birth Chart

But as pop queen and Cancer sun sign, Ariana Grande, says in her hit single “Thank u, next,” exes who have entered your life have taught you something. Even though you’re not together anymore, you still gained something. So what did you learn from your ex? Their zodiac sign may help you solve the mystery.

Aries: Taught You Patience

Aries, perhaps the most argumentative sign of the zodiac, is a fire sign ruled by Mars, the god of war. And this type of banter was most likely was a sore spot in your relationship. Aries have so much energy and force of will that they are always rushing around and wanting everything to be right. Thanks to witnessing this, you received a valuable lesson in patience. With Aries, you learned what is worth fighting for and what isn’t. This newfound patience gives you the strength to listen to other people, decide what’s valuable for you, and waiting for others (like your ex) to chill. You are stronger thanks to this gift of patience.

Taurus: Taught You Growth

It’s no surprise that the symbol for Taurus is the bull. They are just so stubborn. You most likely witnessed their inability to budge on anything—from how they behaved to where they wanted to go to dinner (the same place every time). However, Taurus unwillingness to change taught you the importance of growth. While both people are to blame when a relationship fails, seeing Taurus’ unchanging behavior will make you want to foster a better change for yourself. This is a gift.

Gemini: Taught You Communication

Being able to communicate your feelings and needs is the key part of any relationship. Gemini loves to talk about everything under the sun. This may have gotten on your nerves sometimes, especially since they were always changing their mind. While this may have been annoying in your relationship, you can learn something about how well Gemini’s expresses themselves. Where you a little closed off in the relationship? Did you express yourself well enough? Gemini taught you the value of good communication; take this with you in your next relationship.

Cancer: Taught You Love

Cancer is probably the most love-struck sign in the zodiac. They absolutely hate to be alone and their favorite thing in the world is being with someone they love and doing nice things for them. This behavior, especially in excess, may come off as clingy and suffocating. While this may have been too much attention for you at the moment, Cancers affection showed you how to love. This relationship didn’t work out, but you learned how you deserved to be treated and what kind of love you need. Take this information with you and always fight for the type of love you want.

Leo: Taught You Forgiveness

Leo has a bad rap for being egotistical, condescending, and self-centered—you may have thought this at points during your relationship #nojudgements. However, their focus on the bigger picture does not mean they didn’t care for you. They probably cared about you a great deal, but their thoughts and own personal stuff made them lose sight of you and the important of the relationship. Forgive them. Despite what they believe, Leos are only human and make mistakes just like the rest of us. Forgive them for all of their faults and move on. After all, forgiveness is one of the most important gifts you can give to yourself.

Virgo: Taught You Understanding

Virgos are very tough to read. They can come off as cold, judgmental, and closed off. However, there is a warm, loving side within them that you may have found and cherished for a time. It’s difficult for a Virgo to let someone in—they prefer to keep their distance. To be in a relationship with a Virgo, you must have had to exercise plenty of understanding during their quiet periods. This relationship has made you more understanding of people and taught you to love all sides of a person—even the messy side.

Libra Taught You Gratitude

The sign of balance, Libra knows when to be serious and when to have fun. They most likely treated every day like a gift and got excited over everything; be it a new movie or a cute dog picture. While this may have made you roll your eyes during the relationship, this actually was the gift of gratitude—learning to be thankful for each day. With sensitive Libra, you learned not to take people’s feelings for granted but also learned to enjoy the little things. Gratitude makes life more enjoyable.

Scorpio: Taught You Balance

If your ex was a Scorpio, I’m going to guess that your friends tried to talk you out of dating them at least five times, right? Scorpios are not bad people, they are just intense people. Your relationship, at least on the outside, may have been an emotional rollercoaster of exhilarating highs and emotional lows. Scorpios live for the drama, for torrid affairs, and jealousy. While that made your relationship fun and exciting, it was probably emotionally exhausting for you. It’s always good to have passion for your loved ones, but you’ve learned that passion needs to be balanced out with stability to make it last.

Sagittarius: Taught You Independence

Sagittarius is the traveler of the zodiac. They love nothing more than to hit the road and explore something new. This probably made them bad at commitment. While you may have wanted to stay in and watch a movie, they probably wanted to go out. This could have been a sore point in the relationship, but this taught you the importance of being independent. While you may have wanted to be with your partner 24/7, Sagittarius showed you that you can still stand on your own when they were away. You don’t have to cling to people to make sure that they love you. Learning to love people just the way the are—including yourself is a gift along with realizing you don’t need anyone to make you complete.

Capricorn: Taught You To Let Go

Capricorns are the ultimate score-keepers. You could be talking about something totally different and they’ll bring up something you did six months ago and re-start a fight. They have the tendency to be unforgiving and always holding onto the negative. They’re holding on to pettiness is how and why you’ve learned to let things go. Who cares who said what six months ago? You’ve learned to let go of things that don’t matter, which is major growth. And let go of your Capricorn ex—they are not worth the struggle.

Aquarius: Taught You Compassion

Aquarius may come off as temperamental, uncompromising, and aloof (which was a struggle in your relationship) but that’s because they are deep thinkers who deal with a lot of loneliness and self-esteem issues. They push people away so they don’t get hurt. This relationship taught you compassion for others because you never know what someone is going through. You learned to answer silence and temper with love and compassion, which is the greatest gift of all.

Pisces: Taught You Sensitivity

Pisces is one of the most sensitive signs of the zodiac. They just feel more than the rest of us. And because of this, they are more prone to getting hurt. Saying something unkind or in a harsh tone of voice can easily set them off and have their feelings hurt. This behavior may have annoyed you but also taught you how to speak with more kindness. Words are powerful; they can both hurt and heal people. Pisces sensitivity taught you to be more sensitive to others.

In the words of Ariana Grande, “Thank u, next.”

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