When it comes to love, we all have some habits we aren’t proud of—whether it’s an ongoing relationship with the green-eyed monster or moving way too fast in any relationship. Though many of us think our sun signs are to blame for our toxic behaviors in love, when it comes to partnerships, it’s Venus who rules.
This planet rules love, beauty, relationships (both romantic and platonic), emotional attachments, attraction, as well as our most pleasure-seeking sides. Where your Venus sign falls dictates how we express love and how we want to be loved in return. In essence, your Venus sign suggests the type of lover you are—and this may differ wildly from your sun sign.
For example, though you may be an Aquarius sun—suggesting that you’re typically unemotional and detached. But if your Venus is in Cancer, you may be much more emotional (and sensitive) than a typical Aquarian.
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Overall, you can see your Venus sign acting out in the crushes you have, your personal sense of style, and your toxic love habits.
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With Venus in this fire sign, you come in red-hot in all your relationship. Aries in this placement means you’re instantly committed the moment you feel an emotional connection. You want to give your partner all of your love all of the time—you have zero chill. You are also impulsive, easily booking a weekend trip cross country with someone you just met—or getting hitched in Vegas on a whim. However, as impulsively as you fall in love, you can easily fall out of love. Calm down.
You love quality things, so you’re choosy when it comes to picking a partner. When you do finally meet someone, you don’t want anyone else to have them. You’re stubborn and will not bend to anyone’s will; it’s your way or the highway. So if your lover’s attitude changes, you WILL know and instantly become suspicious and jealous. Remember Taurus, you can own things, not people.
You love a good flirt fest, Gemini. It’s a chance to for you to show off your wit and charm. You would rather flirt with many people on a dating app at once then go on a real-live date with one person. You get bored easily and will ghost if the conversation no longer holds your attention. Your superficial attention can lead people on. Figure out what you want.
You love being in love. In fact, your nurturing and tender natural makes you a wonderful partner. However, your over-sensitivity may be your downfall. If your partner hurts your feelings, you’re prone to melodramatic outbursts followed by a stony silence treatment. You do not forgive easily and will bring up things past slights long after they happen. Stop using tears as a weapon.
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With Venus in Leo, you love attention; whether you on the stage or on a date and your natural magnetism makes it easy to attract someone’s eye. However, the moment you feel your lover’s attention drifting, you’re insecurities take over. Picking fights, causing scenes in public, throwing accusations, are just things you do to spice up your relationship. You’d rather pick a fight and risk your relationship than have it become boring and routine. Life isn’t a movie—your actions have consequences.
As a Virgo Venus, you have a checklist of the “perfect partner” in your head, and you hold every lover to that list. You take minor flaws and turn them into major character defects. You avoid involvement with those who don’t meet your incredibly high standards for fear of getting hurt. You want your lover to see you as special. You are passive aggressive if your partner doesn’t show their appreciation of you correctly. Throw the check-list away.
With Venus in Libra, you are in love with the idea of love. You love being courted with fancy dates and sweet words, but aren’t very interested in being tied down to just one lover. You give off mix signals because you aren’t sure of what you want. You love the thrill of being chased, not caught. You come off as cold and aloof to anyone who thinks they won you easily.
You don’t love by halves, Scorpio, you are all in or all out. So when you do fall in love, you completely utterly devoted to them. However, your constant attention can be overwhelming and your partner may need space. If you feel your lover’s attention fading, you become consumed with jealousy. You have the tendency to stalk their social media, read their text messages, and if you get really mad—slash their tires. Boundaries are healthy.
Your favorite part of the relationship is the beginning, when learning about a new person is an exciting adventure. However, once the excitement fades and the newness wears off, *poof*! You’re gone. No calls, no text—nothing. With Sagittarius in Venus, you’re off on your next adventure, leaving your partners wondering what just happened. Until you reappear months or years later to do the same thing over again. At least send an “it’s not you, it’s me” text next time.
If you had the choice of working overtime at work or going on a date with the love of your life, you’d probably pick work. You’re a devoted person, but that devotion is rarely shown via physical affection or grand romantic gestures. Instead, you want to build a nice life for your partner. However, only focusing on work can make seem unromantic and detached. Step out of the office, Capricorn.
“I love you?” Forget it. You are the last person to drop the L-bomb—if you say it all, it’s not your style. For you, romance does not compute. You don’t show your love and affection in a conventual way: You’d send your lover a science article rather than a love note. You’ll sometimes ignore your partner’s feelings if you’re absorbed in a personal project. You value freedom above all else and will leave if your partner is clingy or emotional. Ask your lover what they need from you.
As a Pisces Venus sign, you tend to see the best in everyone, which is great but can also make for bad habits. You love being in love and will do anything for the person you’re dating. If they asked you to give up everything and follow them, you’d do it in a heartbeat. However, because you see the good in everyone, you ignore the red flags. You pick partners who manipulate your kindness and selfless nature—hoping deep down that you can “change” them. Don’t give your heart away so quickly.
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